Talk to Your Parents About Stress

How to Talk to Your Parents About Stress

If you’re feeling a bit stressed out, your parents can help. Although they did not grow up with the same pressures as you, such as social media and insane testing schedules, the adults in your life are a great source of support. Also keep in mind that although stress and anxiety can stick with you for a long time, there are techniques that can help you manage both (your parents can help you here, too!).

Talking to adults

Having to approach a parent or teacher about uncomfortable subjects can be scary. Don’t be afraid to let your mom or dad know that you need to talk. If you feel tired all the time, like everyday activities are just too hard to get through, or sick without reason, it might be time to talk.

KidsHealth.org is a good website to look at if you think you might need some advice on talking to your parents about stress or other difficult topics. It is not rude to start a conversation by explaining that something is weighing on your mind and that you just need them to listen. It’s also okay to ask for advice. Remember, even your parents need guidance sometimes, so no one is going to judge you for asking for a listening ear.

What do you need?

There is no single thing that all people need to keep stress away. When your stress causes you constant anxiety, it can kill your confidence and make you feel scared of failure, especially when it comes to how you’re doing in school.

A few things that may help (and things you should consider talking to your parents about) include:

  • Changing the way you eat. French fries might be tasty, but anything you get from a drive-through isn’t going to be good for your body. When you eat, your food goes into your gut, which has the task of separating the vitamins and minerals from the stuff that doesn’t contribute to your health. And believe it or not, there is a little world just behind your belly button that affects everything from weight to the chemicals in your brain that make you feel happy or sad. Ask your parents about helping you eat more foods that promote gut health or taking a supplement that contains probiotics.
  • Exercising. When you were in elementary school, you went outside for recess every day, but the older you get, the more you probably just want to chill out on the couch with your video games. Fortnite and Minecraft are fun, but they don’t help your body and brain work the way they should. Doctors from the Mayo Clinic note that exercise can boost your brain’s production of feel-good endorphins (hormones that make you happy) and can ease stress.
  • Having too much to do. Sometimes, adults think that the best thing for their kids is to stay busy. There’s nothing wrong with taking martial arts or playing soccer after school, but sometimes, all of this extra activity is just too much. Not getting done with baseball practice until 10 o’clock at night and then still having to do homework and eat dinner isn’t good for anyone.
  • Spending more time with your family. There are a lot of scientific reasons that you should spend more time with the people you love, and if you’ve been feeling like time around the dinner table makes you happy, you’re probably right. Activities like eating dinner together, playing games, and doing crafts with your family help you bond. These activities also give you a great chance to talk to them about everything that’s going on during the day while you are at school.

There are a lot of things you can do to make stress go away, but there are also things that you’re going to need help with. Talk to your parents or a trusted teacher about things you can do, like eating different foods and taking some activities off your plate. You may find that simple changes to your day can make you feel a whole lot better.

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5 Kid-Tested Tips for Healthy Eating

Some of my fondest childhood memories involve healthy eating, but then again, so do some of my worst memories.  So how do you get your kids to remember eating their veggies as a good memory instead of the traumatizing them for life?

Bad childhood memory time…please don’t serve Lima beans straight out of a can on a regular basis or mounds of steamed brussels sprouts the size of golf balls. Why not?  Because of you do this I can almost guarantee that all of your efforts to get your kids to eat healthy will be in vain.  Think about it, even if they manage to stomach them now, of all the vegetables you will serve them in their lifetime these bad experiences will probably be what stands out in their minds when they are adults, making them shy away from nutritional powerhouses like brussels sprouts in the future.

Even myself who pretty much loves eating every fruit or vegetable still struggle when I get to lima beans and ugh steamed whole Brussels sprouts really…can I get a side of cheese sauce with that.  The smell of Brussel sprouts steaming alone is enough to clear the table.  Try a fresh shredded brussels sprout and apple salad or even sautéed chopped brussels sprouts with onions and garlic as a sandwich topping instead.

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My husband liking his Brussel sprout salad….30 years later and a Sauteed Brussel Sprout Sandwich mmm…

So what else can you do to make healthy eating a good childhood memory?  The following 5 tips are what worked for my parents when they were raising me and what has worked for me so far with my kids, check them out.

1.  Get cooking…..together.

My best childhood memories are set in the kitchen, cooking with my grandma.  Not that everything she taught me to cook was “healthy” but it sure was fun.  All kids want to “help.” Yes, I know 6 year olds may not seem like the best helpers, especially after they spill a pitcher of fresh squeezed juice all over the floor, but that is just part of being a parent.  When learning about food and healthy eating it is important to know what goes into your meals. What better way to teach kids what is in their meal than by having them help prepare it.  Kids are more likely to taste something new if they had a hand in making it because not only are they are proud of their creation but they are curious.  A few ways my son helps me in the kitchen are…

  • gathering ingredients from the pantry and refrigerator.
  • washing the produce.
  • chopping soft foods (such as mushrooms) with a butter knife.
  • mixing and measuring.
  • layering ingredients (sandwiches, pizza, lasagna…pretty much anything that has to be assembled in layers).
  • pressing the button (on the blender, toaster, food processor, juicer, etc) with adult supervision of course.
  • setting the table.
  • and my favorite, cleaning-up.

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My oldest son “helping” make fresh squeezed juice

2.  Serve the rainbow.

You hear this over and over but what does it mean? No you don’t have to spend hours making your food look like perfectly sculpted rainbows, animals and such. Just add a splash of color to each meal. How do you do this?

  • Serve a side of fruit or veggies.
  • Add finely chopped veggies to family favorites.  (Put some avocado or diced tomatoes next to your quesadilla.)
  • Use a variety of fruits and vegetables. (After a while even favorites get boring, you can only eat broccoli so many ways in a week.)
  • Make burgers.  After-all, eating burgers and fries is not the unhealthy mistake most people make, scarfing down greasy take out on a regular basis is the mistake.  Burgers should be layered with color green guacamole and lettuce, purple onions, and juicy red tomatoes, and surrounded by crispy baked sweet potato fries.

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Dinner and some lovely rainbow chard at the farmer’s market

3.  Take your kids shopping.

Who loves going grocery shopping?….Um not me. But for some reason picking, counting and weighing produce is fun, to my son. That is probably because he doesn’t notice the 1,000 other people trying to get to the tomatoes on Sunday evening at HEB. Yeah, I go to the grocery store and not everything in my house is organic because really I do have a life and driving to 20 different places to buy the things on my list is just not realistic.

The goal is to know what to buy when you are at the store, if it comes in a box with a long list of ingredients you don’t understand….it is probably not the healthiest choice.  You should shop for ingredients to make meals; not packaged meals.  Frozen veggies are a better substitute for fresh than canned veggies.  For one, they just come out looking better plus they don’t have as many preservatives.

Make it a goal to go to the local farmer’s market (as a family) at least once a month, taste what the vendors are offering, and buy a couple of your fresh seasonal favorites.  Click here for a listing of RGV Farmer’s Markets.

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Fresh cherry tomatoes and serrano peppers.

4.  Make eating a family affair.

Who really likes eating alone, come on, that is just sad and you know it. Even if it is just me and my 11 month old at home and he is not hungry but it is lunch time for mama, guess who is going to sit in his high chair and have a bowl of diced fruit. Yeah it may mean your meal is not very peaceful and that you will slip on a slobbery piece of apple when you stand up but seriously they are so cute even when they are a mess. Make a goal for how many times you will eat as a family this week.

Teach older kids how to set the table and and enjoy mealtime conversation without the TV blaring. Yeah, it may take some time before your 6 year old learns how to eat with his mouth closed and not to speak with a jaw full of spaghetti; but this is the time to teach them.

Eating together also means eating the same food together. I know lots of parents who let their kids eat first because their food is ready first….because what they serve themselves is different than what they serve their kids….sorry guys but this is not cool. It is just more work for you now and more importantly, in the long run because bad habits are hard to break. Growing up if I said I wanted frozen chicken nuggets instead of wherever was cooking, it would not have been received favorably because my mom and dad were not short order cooks. Plus, if you want your kid to eat a variety of foods and have a sophisticated palette….serve them real food that you want to eat too and eat it together.

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My two little boys at the dinner table

5.  Be a food role-model.

Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you have to go on a strict diet.  A healthy relationship with food is beneficial for every member of the family. Yes, you can have your cake and eat it too….just not at every meal. So what could you do?

  • Model eating a well-balanced diet throughout the day.
  • Choose fresh local foods when you can.
  • Make good restaurant choices
  • Enjoy meal time as family time.
  • Plan your meals. Not that you have to stick to a rigid plan but having an idea of what you are going to cook saves a lot of shopping time and money spent on things that sit in the pantry unused before getting sent to the food bank before it is too late.
  • Educate yourself.  For you this may mean learning about the food pyramid on choosemyplate.gov, taking a cooking class  at the McAllen Culinary Academy or making a new recipe board on Pinterest.  Whatever you do, take some time to reflect on your eating habits and make a couple healthy goals for you and your family.

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Orange Cranberry Muffins and Breakfast crepes are oh so sweet!

Check out my food blog and follow me on Instagram for more of my healthy eating ideas.

 Enjoy!

Audrey Cisneros

www.chileylimon.com

www.theimaginaryshop.com

 

P.S. Don’t forget to check out the McAllen Culinary Academy

2900 N 10th St McAllen TX 78501

(956) 683-0021

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Nuzzle Hug my New BFF

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Nuzzle Hug I love this product. I dealt with major engorgement issues so I used it both hot and cold. Being able to remove the individual breast pads helped too so I could have one in the freezer if I needed it. The size of each pad is really perfect too, I had engorgement up into my underarms and the pads gave great coverage.

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The warmth on my neck was also such a relief!  You forget how heavy a newborn can seem in those first few days of constant carrying.  Cuddled up on the sofa with a cold glass of water and the nuzzle hug warming my breasts and neck, best feeling of relief!  Overall it’s a great product!

Review by: Monica Black

BellyView 4d/3d Ultrasound

 

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Winner of the 2014  Preferred Choice and  Top Choice Award!!!

Nuzzle Hug is available at http://nuzzlemom.com/index.php/shop/. Pricing starts at 49.99.

Another great product we found at the ABC Kids Expo!

 

Lulu Hanke

www.tots-tweens.com

 

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Organizing BreastMilk

The Milkies Freeze is a “first in, first out” breast milk storage system that fits in your freezer. Simply collect your precious breast milk in any milk storage bag, and place the bag on the metal quick-freeze tray at the top of the Freeze.

 

 

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Milkies FREEZE Product Review-  The tray that lays on top of the storage compartment really sets this item apart from others!  Perfectly flat and frozen baggies every time. The tray is metal though, so the condensation that forms from a warm bag of milk on a cold metal tray can cause bags to stick. I just put a paper towel between the tray and bag. Great product if you go through your milk quickly. I recommend storing 3-4oz per bag to keep bags from getting stuck in the compartment and to keep them flat enough to store and remove easily. Easy way to stay organized.

Review by: Monica Black
BellyView 3d/4d Ultrasound
Mcallen, TX

 

What does Milkies Freeze Do:

  • Enclosed storage keeps milk storage bags protected from damage and prevents leaks
  • Efficient, space-saving design stores more milk in less space
  • First in, first out system ensures that oldest milk is used first
  • Can be used with any milk storage bag
  • Disassembles for easy cleaning
  • Stores up to 60 ounces of breast milk in any brand of milk storage bag
  • Metal “quick-freeze” tray facilitates rapid freezing
  • Prevents contamination of your precious breast milk

Milkies Freeze is $29.95 available at http://www.mymilkies.com or call 1-800-367-2837.  Winner of the Cribsie Awards!  Another Great product we found at the ABC Kids Expo!

 

 

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MOMin- Really Works!!

Mosquito and Bug Bite Relief SAFE for the whole Family!!

 

Here is another great product RGV Tots-Tweens found the ABC Kids Expo in Las Vegas:

Living in Texas we have a mosquito and bug problem. The bugs LOVE to suck our blood. While at the ABC KIDS Expo we found this product called MOMin Outdoor Shield, Herbal Insect Bite Relief, all Organic and USDA approved product line. The owners swore left and right it WORKS. So we took some samples and here are our findings.

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My mom took the samples to Brownsville, and if anyone knows the Rio Grande Valley, it is MOSQUITOVille after a rain. Being the green thumb that she is, she decided to garden one afternoon. After being bitten she came in and applied the MOMin Outdoor Shield, Herbal Insect Bite Relief.  In less than 20 minutes all the redness, itching and swelling went away. She called me right up and said “It WORKS”!

 

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The other sample stayed in San Antonio, Texas. My husband after mowing the grass had numerous bug bites on both ankles. First night the bites kept him up. The next day he stopped at the local pharmacy and bought some cooling spray. That evening I mentioned the MOMin Outdoor Shield, Herbal Insect Bite Relief, he tried it and had a good night sleep.  The next day he had a few bites lingering, reapplied the MOMin Outdoor Shield, Herbal Insect Bite Relief and all the bites were gone that day. The results were amazing. This product WORKS!

For more info visit and to order:  http://www.mysmilebaby.com/

 

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The Magnificent Sprinkles- NEA

The Magnificent Sprinkles:

For over four years our son has been afraid to sleep or be alone.  He claims there are monsters and shadows in the house.  We had many talks with him and it’s all in his imagination.  As parents we know fear is just part of childhood.

This year we attended the ABC Kids Expo in Las Vegas.  As we began our first day we saw a booth with these colorful troll looking things called The Magnificent Sprinkles (trolls with standing hair was a common toy in my generation).  A kind lady at the booth walked up to us and explained her neat and unique product.  Her name was Vicki and she was the author and creator of The Magnificent Sprinkles.  She began to read the story to us.  Sprinkles the troll would get powers by swooshing and spinning to help kids feel safe and brave.  What an incredible concept. With a spin and a song, the Magnificent Sprinkles bring comfort and joy to you!

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The Magnificent Sprinkles comes with a soft a band on its leg to for kiddos to rub, a great soothing mechanism.  Needless to say I ended up buying NEA (Never Ever Alone) for my seven year old.  One of the best investments we could have made.  We read the story together and he LOVED It.  Three weeks have gone by and every time he is scared he finds NEA and feels great.  While at school NEA protects his room!

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For any parent having a child with fears, whether it’s going to the doctor, dentist, monsters in the closet or being bullied, there is The Magnificent Sprinkles to help! The Magnificent Sprinkles: Growing up Sprinkleliciously!

NOW available on Amazon!  For more information, visit http://www.magnificentsprinkles.com or visit their Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/TheMagnificentSprinkles. 

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Just in time for the  Holidays or Just because.

Make to visit our Face Book page post for  your chance to win a Magnificent Sprinkle OR  Click on the link to Enter: Enter Here !

Happy Mom,

Lulu Hanke

RGV Tots-Tweens.com

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WINSday GiveAway!!!

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Enter to win this Natural Dual Purpose Ointment!

To enter visit  our Face Book page and enter our  WINSday contest!! Here is another product we found @ABC Kids Expo in Las Vegas and it can be yours!! Simply visit us www.facebook.com/RGVTotsTweens… find the WINSday GiveAway #1 post and Comment and Like the post to Enter. Winner will be announced on MONDAY!

 

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5 all-natural ingredients. Booty Balm & Beyond has a smooth, elegant feel, with the pleasant scent of natural vanilla. And it’s cloth-diaper safe. This product is great for Baby’s Bottoms, Mommies Boobies and it can used ANYWHERE you need it! For more info and see other NapiNol products visit www.napinolnurserytherapies.com or visit them at www.facebook.com/NapiNolOrganic!

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Winter Health & Safety Tips

 

What to wear

  • It is a common mistake to protect babies and young children from cold weather with blankets, quilts, and pillows
    • Loose bedding is not ideal for a baby’s sleeping environment
    • Loose bedding may contribute to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)
    • Instead, dress the child in warm one-piece sleep wear (onesies) or wearable blankets
  • This rule goes for both children and adults—dress in several thin layers instead of one or two thick garments. Do not forget to pack/ wear boots, gloves, and hat/ earmuffs
    • Easier to shed a cold, wet layer and still stay dry and warm

     

  • “The rule of thumb for older babies and young children is to dress them in one more layer of clothing than an adult would wear in the same conditions.”

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When to Go Outside—Or Not To

  • Pay attention to the wind chill. Windy days are increasingly colder than the temperature detected
  • How long should the kids play outside?
    • 30 o F and higher
      • Comfortable temperature to play outside
      • Layer clothing, encourage hats and gloves
      • Provide water—regulates body temp.
      • Regroup inside every forty minutes or so
      • Check babies’ fingers and feet often

       

    • 20o F – 30o F
    • Follow the same rules as above but more cautiously
    • Gather children inside every twenty minutes (perfect hot chocolate break!
    • Below 20oF
    • Keep children indoors
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      Why Bundle Up

      • Frostbite—
        • When the skin and outer tissues become frozen
        • Common spots are fingers, toes, ears and nose
        • If child complains of numbness or such symptoms, apply warm washcloth or place frozen parts in warm water (bath water temperature 104o F)
        • If numbness continues more than a few minutes, contact a doctor.
        • Hypothermia—
          • When a child’s temperature drops below normal
          • Occurs from excessive exposure to cold temperatures, most often playing outdoors
          • Be sure to remove all wet clothing as soon as possible when returning indoors
          • More common in children than adults
          • “As hypothermia sets in, the child may shiver and become lethargic and clumsy.  Speech may become slurred and body temperature will decline in more severe cases.”
          • Call 911 immediately if these symptoms are evident

      Stay Warm & Enjoy Your Winter,
      Stephanie Falcone

       

 

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